DURING GUIDANCE, WE HAVE BEGUN TALKING ABOUT BULLYING BEHAVIOR AND THAT RESEARCH STATES THAT THE MOST POWERFUL FORCE IN STOPPING BULLING BEHAVIOR IS FOUND IN OUR BYSTANDERS. STUDENTS LEARN THAT BULLYING BEHAVIOR IS WHEN THE NEGATIVE BEHAVIOR IS REPEATEDLY BEING DONE ON PURPOSE AND THERE IS A POWER IMBALANCE. HERE ARE A FEW POWERFUL TIPS FOR THE TARGET ADAPTED FROM SARAH TITUS’ BLOG.
1) REMEMBER THAT THE PROBLEM IS NOT YOU, IT’S THEM!!
There are some people out there who thrive on making others miserable. The more they make others feel bad about themselves, the more power and control it gives them, in turn making the bully feel better about themselves.
2) TELL YOUR TEACHERS
Tell people of higher rank that this is occurring. In doing so, sometimes you will find that they are the ones who are either in on the bullying as well, or they are friends with the bully. Keep going up in rank as high as you can until someone listens.
3) TELL YOUR FRIENDS
Having your friends around you and joining groups can be of great help. If there is a bully who is picking on you, and you are with the entire wrestling team, they’re not going to bother you. Even if it’s the chess club, it doesn’t matter. Strength comes in numbers. The bully will want to isolate you. This gives them control. Make lots of friends and don’t let them win.
4) KNOW THAT BEING BULLIED IS A SIGN OF YOUR GREATNESS
The more successful you are at something, the more people hate to see your success and want to take you down. It makes them feel bad that they are not as awesome as you are, and they don’t like that feeling, thus, they try to chop you down to their level.
5) Show them love
Another hard one for sure. Keep in mind that a bully usually has some things going on themselves that are so painful that it is their only way of reacting to the situation that they know how. Many bully’s are secretly abused themselves, and feeling helpless, they try to control everyone and everything else. Maybe they have lost a parent or loved one. Whatever tragedy they are dealing with, when you show them love they may soften.
Read more at http://www.sarahtitus.com/2014/06/01/10-things-youre-bullied/#sqTLfru5ujglCpuZ.99